A subjective perspective of interaction and intimation with the people around you differentiates a friend from a client. The former being much beneficial.
THE LOLLIPOP BUSINESS
You remember the time when you used to share a single lollipop with your grade school best friend? If you do, it’s practically a memory worth disposing of.
It’s highly unsanitary even though it’s highly engaging for children.
It’s masked as an unselfish act towards another human being – neglecting external variables and give focus on the act. These are often times tagged as selfless because it’s looked on to with blind eyes even though, at times, the child who received the treat would just have the lollipop all to himself.
Friendship is an intimate relationship and not a personal charity.
In the same sense, misguided by lack of contrasted concept between colleagues and friends at work, people tend to prematurely trust their teammates or workmates.
Forming an analogy, let’s incorporate trust as the lollipop and the children are businessmen making deals with one another.
It’s highly unlikely for businessmen to see their recent or new clients as friends since platonic relationships keep the functional benefits and possible risks at bay – one side is not giving too much or too less. This simply means trust is not completely given by both sides.
On the other hand, other businessmen tend to keep their friendly relationships to longtime clients who have surpassed the business/platonic relationships through countless deficits or financial/economical dilemmas. This, as the opposite, means trust is established through time and trials.
REACTANTS, REACTORS, AND CLASSMATES
As for workplace relationships, it works the same like a set of students in a classroom all meeting for the first time.
There will be shuffling and random pairing/gathering of elements in a given time frame until the pandemonium settles down and the elements may have found the people they like hanging out with.
This is also like how a chemical reaction works: an element/molecule will have attained great entropy until it has paired/bonded with its reactive partner.
But the variables in the workplace aren’t as simple as chemical reactions or random permutations because these variables are complex human beings and the catalyst for their interaction is the ever-shuffling of teams, offices, seats, etc.
People interact with their colleagues in the office and most of the time they think it’s automatically friendship.
There’s a definitive border between a work colleague and a friend though people most often times cannot distinguish due to a lot of reasons.
A friend, though pop culture might have mixed and objective descriptions, is someone worth the trust which will last through time.
It does not, however, restrict into one circumstance being definite.
A workplace mate may have been your friend and happens to be in the same company.
A friend may have been your work place mate who, after quitting from the same company, still keeps in touch and lends his time on weekends for a jolly mug of butterbeer.
Then again, friendship is as complicated as an intimate relationship.
What seems to be a thin lining between friends and colleagues is often blurry and other times overlap. But it’s just that: seems to be.
Re-evaluating the situation can definitely resolve the blur; increase the division – highly differentiated.
Daily interaction does not equate to friendship. It’s one of the many things that are needed to be crossed out before concluding a trust-based relationship.
Although, in this piece, the “colleague” might have been antagonistic, it certainly is not. The point is focused on trust as it redefines an acquaintance into a friend.
It is also noteworthy that a generous person can often cause more damage and be his own antagonist when he offers his trust to his acquaintances but the recipients do not respond the same way.
Rejection can be quite depressing.
Learning how to differentiate a friend from a simple colleague can be beneficial to a person’s career and to his psychological well-being.
You choose your friends and so as your irrelevant acquaintances.
The line isn’t that thin after all.