You’re just sad. Look at the brighter side & you’ll get over it.
I really don’t follow that train of thought.
If we use that same logic, 800 thousand people were just sad but couldn’t get over it so they killed themselves.
Emotions are part of the human nature. Call these as part of our evolution to survive or from God, we all feel it and we can’t get away from it.
These emotions sometimes climb up to its extremes and consequentially influences our behaviors. Sometimes, these “behaviors” are the opposite.
“He was just himself. He had his usual smile. We even had a good laugh at our aunt’s house the night before.”
It’s silent and sometimes it doesn’t show. But by surprise, we all fall victim to this.
I don’t claim to be an expert on this but I don’t have to be to try and understand how serious depression is. If you want to know more about depression, here’s a quick read from real experts.
It’s not to be taken lightly as to just tell someone to “get over it” because hundreds of thousands of people die of depression because they can’t get over it – it’s not that simple because the causes/reasons are not simple, too.
You may not know it but you might be the reason for that person’s depression. Taking it lightly would make things worse. The next thing you’ll know, you’re crying over that person’s coffin.
Blunt? That’s a pill of truth for you.
THIS PART IS INTENDED TO HELP.
If you think you know someone is depressed:
- Tell them you’re there to listen
- Take it seriously and avoid sarcasm or making them feel worse
- They can be defensive and won’t listen to your attempts to help, don’t pressure them and just listen some more
- Let them cry or get angry
- It doesn’t work overnight, it’s an ordeal that lasts longer than just a day or two
- Tell them they don’t have to deal with the whole situation alone and that there are people who’re willing to help
- Be sensitive to the details
- Tell them depression is a serious matter and should see a doctor; if you must, offer them your company going to a specialist
If you feel like you’re depressed, please don’t think you’re alone in this.
There are people who care for you and love you.
If you need help, call for one. There’s no shame in doing that. It means you are strong and that deep inside you know you are worth more than what you think.
It’s not easy now but it will be better. Just take your time.